Top Ten Ways to Retain Intimacy

in your day-to-day life.

10) Make eye contact when asking, “How was your day?”
9) Eat dinner together. At the table. Every day. Put on lipstick, or brush your hair, whatever it is you do to make yourself beautiful.
8) Turn off the TV. Better yet, turn off the internet.
7) Flirt.
6) Find out what makes your spouse tick (gifts? words of encouragement? touch? acts of service?) and do it.*
5) Fight. It’s better than the emotional distance created by festering wounds.
4) Make up before bedtime.
3) Laugh together. Laugh at your kid, laugh at a movie, laugh at a memory—just find something, anything, to laugh about.
2) Say, “I love you,” at an unexpected time.
1) Remember that sex is like Bible study: you may not always feel like it, but you’ll always be glad you did.

* I highly recommend the Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate